Parenting Styles and Blog Roundup

Parenting Styles

Many times when we talk about parenting styles there is a negative connotation. So many people have their own ideas about what is right or wrong.

There are so many arguments about parenting styles:

-whether you breastfeed or not
-how long to breastfeed
-when is the appropriate time to potty train
-Is day care good or bad?
-work away from home or stay at home
-when is the right time to take away the pacifier? … and so on.

These kinds of questions can be disheartening, especially from the people we hold most dear in our lives.

Every family is different. Not every child can fit into a cookie cutter style.

The great thing about every person in this world is that we are all different.

If everyone were the same there would be a heck of a lot fewer people.

Don’t let anyone else make you feel inferior because you don’t do things the exactly the way they do all the time.

Every family situation is unique and your parenting style is definitely not going to be the same as anyone else’s. And that’s okay.

We don’t all have to fit a certain mold of parenting styles.

Do whatever works for your little family and makes you happy.

According to the work of Diane Baumrind in the 1960s, one commonly-referenced categorization of parenting styles, there are four…

  • Authoritarian or Disciplinarian
  • Permissive or Indulgent
  • Uninvolved
  • Authoritative

“Authoritarian Parenting Styles

Authoritarian parents are often thought of as disciplinarians.

  • They use a strict discipline style with little negotiation possible. Punishment is common.
  • Communication is mostly one way: from parent to child. Rules usually are not explained.
  • Parents with this style are typically less nurturing.
  • Expectations are high with limited flexibility.

Permissive Parenting Styles

Permissive or Indulgent parents mostly let their children do what they want, and offer limited guidance or direction. They are more like friends than parents.

  • Their discipline style is the opposite of strict. They have limited or no rules and mostly let children figure problems out on their own.
  • Communication is open but these parents let children decide for themselves rather than giving direction.
  • Parents in this category tend to be warm and nurturing.
  • Expectations are typically minimal or not set by these parents.

Uninvolved Parenting Styles

Uninvolved parents give children a lot of freedom and generally stay out of their way. Some parents may make a conscious decision to parent in this way, while others are less interested in parenting or unsure of what to do.

  • No particular discipline style is utilized. An uninvolved parent lets a child mostly do what he wants, probably out of a lack of information or care.
  • Communication is limited.
  • This group of parents offers little nurturing.
  • There are few or no expectations of children.

Authoritative Parenting Styles

Authoritative parents are reasonable and nurturing and set high, clear expectations. Children with parents who demonstrate this style tend to be self-disciplined and think for themselves. This style is thought to be most beneficial to children.

  • Disciplinary rules are clear and the reasons behind them are explained.
  • Communication is frequent and appropriate to the child’s level of understanding.
  • Authoritative parents are nurturing.
  • Expectations and goals are high but stated clearly. Children may have input into goals.

WHAT ARE MY PARENTING STYLES?

Few of us fit neatly into one single parenting style, but rather raise children using a combination of parenting styles.

Think of the four styles as a continuum instead of four distinct ways to parent.

Ideally, we think about our children and what they need from us at specific points in time.

For example, while a parent might not typically adopt an authoritarian parenting style, there might be times in a child’s life when that style is needed. Or you might know an authoritarian parent who is nurturing, contrary to the description above.”

If you do feel like you are floundering in different areas of your parenting journey check out some parenting blogs.

Here are a few posts I recommend right now.

BLOG ROUNDUP

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14 sexy at-home date-night ideas for parents…after the kids have gone to bed

14 Books that Teach Little Kids All About Love

Even if you don’t hate green beans

Best Tips for Laundry Management for Families

11 Sweet Places for a Kid-Friendly Dessert Date in NYC

9 life lessons from Melissa McCarthy that all moms can relate to.

Here is a post if you are struggling as a stepmom…

A Stepmom’s Guide to Overcoming Jealous Stepkids

15 Things Every Preschool Teacher Needs

7 tricks to create more positive thinking in your life | Spawned ep 102

Surviving A Week Of The Family Stomach Flu

How busy, hardworking mothers create #PocketFullofFun moments with their kids

At the end of the day, you decide what to do and what not to do for your family. No one else has the right to put you down for that. They have their own lives to worry about.

 

Let me know in the comments something another parent has told you that you were doing all wrong.

Vent it out here, and as Elsa says… LET IT GOOOOOO!!! 🙂

Share this post with your mom friends who also deal with the mom shaming.

Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

Over-Parenting: Am I doing too much for my child?

Over-Parenting: Are You Doing Too Much for Your Child?

This is a somewhat uncomfortable subject, but there seems to be a concern these days over parents who “do too much.”

The problem of “learned helplessness” has reared its head lately, as children struggle to be independent after having everything done for them.

Are you over-parenting? Are you doing too much for your child? How can you tell?

First of all, be easy on yourself. Don’t allow yourself to feel guilty or condemned. Just take a look at your parenting and check out these tips, and make adjustments where you see fit.

1. “It’s Just Easier to Do It Myself”

Yes, in the short term, it is. Who has the time to listen to their seven-year-old gripe about tying his or her shoes – and act like he “can’t” by doing it wrong on purpose – when you need to get out the door or be late? In some cases, it’s better to be late…or anticipate this delay and allow time for it. Likely, it will only happen a few times before your child gets the hint that s/he better just tie their shoes.

Please note, though, that this will only work if your child knows how to do the task you’re expecting, whether it’s tying shoes or getting dressed or making the bed. If your child really doesn’t know how to do something, take the time to teach him/her first so that you both don’t end up frustrated. That brings us to the next point…

2. Give Your Kids Tools

Parents can err in two extremes – on the one hand, we do too much and don’t let them do anything on their own; but on the other hand, we can’t expect our kids to do things they don’t know how to do. The middle ground is giving kids the tools they need and then getting out of the way.

“Tools” come in the form of life skills, from preparing food to school projects to job interviews. If you step aside too soon, your child may not have the tools s/he needs to go forward with the task at hand and may give up. If you step in too often or too soon, your child may presume s/he can’t do it (or not care to bother since you’re doing it) and also give up. So a good idea is to teach your kids the skills involved and then step aside once you know that they know.

Sometimes, that means giving how-to details that can seem ridiculous to an adult but are necessary for a child.

3. Are You Fostering Internal Motivation?

Ultimately, motivation must come from within for true independence, say experts. Broad requests like “do your homework” or “clean your room” can seem overwhelming (think “clean your house” if you’re an adult! It’s a huge task when you phrase it that way).

Coaching and encouragement are fine, experts note; that’s not the same as doing the task for your child. Try making a checklist so s/he can see the steps involved in the chore or task at hand. Instead of “do your homework,” for example, you could make a list like this:

* Find comfy place to set up books
* Get a drink and a snack
* Write out spelling words and study list
* Do math worksheet
* Read chapter of book and write paragraph summary

You can break it down further, too, into sub-steps – whatever works for your child. Also, a list (preferably one your child helps write out) keeps you from having to tell him/her what to do over and over.

How do you teach your children things to do for themselves, that you normally did for them, around the house?

Let me know in the comments.

I hope you have a happy, healthy, and safe Thanksgiving.

I am so thankful that you took the time to read my post and I hope it helps you in some way.

 

 

Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

14 of my top favorite blogs for 2016

 

My Top Favorite Blogs of 2016

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I am addicted to reading blogs. All different types, from food and family to fashion and lifestyle. This is a big reason why I decided to start blogging.

The bloggers on this list are the ones I have been reading most this year. Some a lot more than others. They are in no particular order. But, most of them are mom blogs.

I get a lot of inspiration and also helpful tips from these bloggers. They are wonderful and creative people. Definitely, check them out and add them to your blog reading list.

My top favorite blogs 2016

14 Blogs I’ve really loved this year:

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http://www.everythingmommyhood.com/ blog reviews, recipes, giveaways, DIY and owns a blogging community https://www.facebook.com/groups/MommyhoodMediaBloggers/

http://www.powered-by-mom.com/ about connecting, sharing and building community

http://www.lifeofasouthernmom.com/ reviews, giveaways, recipes, and helpful tips

http://theblogdiva.com/ product reviews, gossip and everyday life experiences

http://www.momalwaysfindsout.com/ family life, recipes, crafts, travel and much more

http://livingwellmom.com/ Everyday ideas for healthy living and Realistic inspiration for real moms

http://www.sahmsue.com/ dedicated to making life less stressful and more fulfilling for moms. You’ll find ideas for stressing less and enjoying life more, organizing ideas, activities for kids, real-life parenting insight, easy recipes, and realistic tips for living life more naturally

http://www.thesahlife.com/ life, favorite recipes, crafts, parenting tips and ideas, budgeting and money-saving tips, and more

http://www.imasillymami.com/ real-life experiences with humor and lots of sarcasm

http://womenwinningonline.com/ Jen teaches you how to Start your own online business, tips for More effective marketing of your online business, how to Get more followers for your online business, How to Earn more money in your online business, and how to Add tools to your business to make your life easier.

http://mummyswritingdarling.co.uk/ Writing about motherhood to keep above water. If I can’t make you laugh- then we can cry (and drink) together.

http://www.momadvice.com/ a community for women that are looking for ways to stay organized, stay sane, and stay within their budget.

http://www.abeautifulmess.com/ Cheers to doin’-it-yourself, always learning, trying, failing, dreaming big, enjoying the small stuff, and above all else … embracing imperfection. Life is better when it’s a little bit messy. home decor projects, recipes, and crafts

http://www.ladolcevitablog.com/ design sensibility is a modern take on traditional style– gravitating towards classic silhouettes and timeless pieces paired with a touch of glamor and an infusion of color. Through her design approach, Paloma is able to create comfortable, luxurious spaces reflective of her clients’ tastes, interests, and lifestyles. Paloma believes that the most beautiful interiors are also the most personal.

These really are some great bloggers. I highly recommend checking out at least one of them. You will not be disappointed.

Who are your favorite bloggers this year?

Do you have a blog in mind that has helped you out a lot this year?

Let me know in the comments so I can check them out as well.

Have a wonderful Weekend!!

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Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.