Disciplining Children: Six Ideas to help with your Stubborn Child

Love your child(ren)? Of course, you do. So when he or she misbehaves on a consistent basis, what’s the best way to administer discipline?

Well, as you may be aware, there is a wide range of thought on this subject. One school of thought teaches essentially hand’s off, and says, the little darlings are very intelligent, so let them figure it all out on their own. No punishment or reward systems.
The fact is that anyone who actually watches children behave – without preset mental filters – will almost certainly come to the conclusion that each child responds differently. Some children have a very high “pain” threshold. They can take whatever penalties you set as they stubbornly refuse to do what they should. There are others who can be easily motivated by various token systems.
So how do you find out what method of discipline will work for your child(ren)?
In a word: experiment!
Here are six ideas for proceeding.
#1 – Put on your “scientist hat.” Research what’s out there. No author knows your child better than you do. But many researchers have seen thousands of kids and had opportunities to try various strategies with children and their families. So knowing what’s been done before is a very good strategy to start.
#2 – Once you have a sense of what is possible, start interacting with your children. Bear in mind that we live in societies that are increasingly filled with busybodies who do everything they can to blur the lines between discipline and abuse. So be careful as you try different discipline ideas.
Important note: as you try these ideas, it is critically important that you (a) remember your main goal: raising good, intelligent children. And (b) be patient. This is as much an experiment for them as it is for you. They’ve never been where they are right now. It’s their first time being a kid at the age they are. And remember, you’re not dealing with lab rats here. You’re dealing with your children. Never lose sight of that.
#3 – When you find something that seems to work, don’t think you can finally relax. Usually, short-term hits to the bulls-eye with long-term success are few and far between. Your child may be responding to novelty as much as to the discipline. When the novelty wears off – and it will – your child may very well revert to the old behaviors that you tried to change. Novelty has a tough time lasting more than a few weeks. So give things at least 3-6 weeks to see if the changes are enduring.
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#4 – Tweak before you make major changes in your efforts. For example, suppose you are rewarding your kid(s) with pizza at the end of the week if certain things are done right. And suppose you have reason to believe they are responding to novelty rather than the measures themselves. Rather than junking the measures, tweak them a bit to determine if your suspicion is valid. For example, you might vary the food rewards and say, “Look – if you do the right things, you get to pick what we have for Friday dinner.” You might be on the right track and tweaking gives you a chance to really find out.
#5 – If tweaking doesn’t work, then, by all means, try new approaches, keeping in mind all of the above.
#6 – Finally, be humble enough to know that you might need professional family help in the form of therapists and other counselor types. You’ve got to be careful here because these professionals vary widely in terms of competence and also in terms of appropriateness for your family. For example, some therapists suggest Ritalin as the first line of therapeutic intervention if the child is having trouble in school. You have a right to be skeptical in such situations. Listen to your own inner voice here.
Finally, use common sense. It sounds strange, but the fact is that no matter what professional help you may seek out, no matter what books you read, and no matter what online forums you participate in – YOU will be making the decisions. You are responsible, good or bad. Use the best judgment you can and proceed with caution.
Do you have a difficult child? How have you been dealing with discipline so far? Leave me a comment about your experience with disciplining your children.
I hope you are having a wonderful week!

Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

Goodbye 2017: Looking back on the past year

I hope everyone had a very Happy New Year, and that you are spending quality time with friends and family.

Let’s hope 2018 will be a great year for us and our families.

I would like to take this time to look back through some 2017 posts in social media. Come with me through this past year…

TWITTER 2017

I cannot tell you how many times I’ve seen this particular post on all social media this week. It is so very true albeit annoying.

Sometimes, a tablet/iPad is the only way to get any quiet time/housework done, for your own sanity.

Instagram 2017

😂 #parentingin2017 #momgrouplife via @loud_momma

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So this is what has become of our species 😂 @overheardla #parentingin2017 #lol

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Looking back at the fads of the year…

Fidget spinners!

The only one I approve of, the others I want to break.

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I don’t think I need to say anything about this next image. If you are on social media at all, you have seen this theme EVERYWHERE!

Unicorn hair, Unicorn Frapp, Unicorn cupcakes… the list goes on and on and on and on……

FACEBOOK

Stay at Home Moms: Momming Together

Mom Madness

That’s Inappropriate

YOUTUBE

 

 

 

 

Looking back on 2017, it was a pretty crazy, eventful year for all.

Not to say that it was bad, BUT hopefully, 2018 will be much better for everyone.

Have a wonderful week and take some time for yourself.

Let me know if you made a New Year’s resolution or what you hope to achieve before the end of 2018.

looking back

Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

These are a Few of My Favorite Things: July

THESE ARE A FEW OF MY FAVORITE THINGS: JULY

There are so many talented Social Media influencers. Every month I try to keep track of the really great posts I see and share them with you.

I hope you enjoy these posts and find a few accounts to follow and share.

 

TWITTER

 

I think I had a little too much fun on Twitter this month. These are the best of all the posts I retweeted 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

INSTAGRAM

 

I need to pull it together. RP from one of our very faves, @modernmomprobs Go follow her now!

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Please. Shut it. Go follow the hilarious @perfectpending for more funny and TRUTH!

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Pinterest

 

Housewife How To’s

No Place Like Home

Listotic

Graceful Little Honey Bee

Mom Deals

The Bub Hub

What Moms Love

Holly Homer: Kids Activities Blog

Glue Sticks Gum Drops

I Heart Arts and Crafts

 

Facebook Pages

 

Real Time Mom

And Then There Were 2

Mommin’ it up

Mish Mash Mommy

 

Blogs

Rockin’ Mama

Scary Mommy

Rants from Mommyland

Redefining Mom

Mom Spark

 

This has been the July edition of my favorite things.

 

Have you seen any funny or interesting social media posts this month? Let me know in the comments 🙂

 

Please, check out a few of these great people and their social medias. I promise you, you won’t be disappointed.

 

 

 

 

 

Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

What I want for Mother’s Day Gifts? No not that!!!

 

In all my almost 34 years I have never heard of anyone asking a mother what SHE wants for Mother’s Day.

Yet, I see so many articles and blog posts boasting about what mom REALLY wants this time of year.

I have read numerous of these posts and I have come to a startling conclusion… they are all full of lies (in my honest opinion).

I only say this because most of the posts that I have read are all about fashionable clothing and jewelry and extravagant spa days.

But, I know that most of the mother’s that I have encountered in my life want none of that! I know what Mother’s Day Gifts I would want.

So, I have decided to write my own post about those things I know other mom’s like me would appreciate this Mother’s Day.

I also took into account the silliest of the internet “Mother’s Day” gifts. Which, I will admit, made me chuckle a little too much.

I had to reel myself in because the internet is a dangerous place sometimes. I found myself in a dark hole of padded underwear and knee high rainbow socks.

Here are a few things on my list that are figurative so to speak

  1. Sarcasm font: for those times you have to text someone who is on your last nerve but you can’t be as blunt as you would like at that moment.
  2. A literal THANK YOU for everything I do all day every other day of the year.
  3. For people who do not have children to keep their 2 cents to themselves and let me parent my child.
  4. For mothers to just STOP judging each other! Everyone is different and your parenting style is just that… yours.

I am moving on because this list could get feisty.

Some romantic Mother’s Day gifts.

Now, let us delve into a few romantic gifts/things to do. I am not one for sappy romance but some of these are nice.

  • A weekend getaway: Now I’ve had a few of these and depending on where you go, it can be a lot of fun.
  • Links of Love Necklace honestly I know I said I didn’t want jewelry, but if I had to pick something this would definitely be the one. This is such a simple yet beautiful piece and the contrast is so pretty to me.

  • Tea Bag Pocket Mug I mean what is better than a practical gift? I drink at least one cup of tea a day. It is so annoying when I sit down to enjoy my cup and I have to get up to throw away the tea bag because I don’t want to set in on the table as that will leave a wet mark. I’m all about making less work for myself.

  • Farm Fresh Spa Experience Kit this one is also a little contradictory, But, hear me out. Giving mom a spa gift card puts a time limit on her gift and she feels pressured (I know I would). This puts the decisions in her hands as to when she wants to do this and it’s more relaxing in your own home.

Okay, that’s enough of that.

Let us get to the fun part (at least it was fun for me to find all these silly things).

Alrightie, I’m going to start off with one that is sure to please any mom who has to deal with their significant other or teenagers.

  • Bandelettes Now when I first saw these I thought it was a joke…. they are real. And after further inspection, they make sense, but certainly not as a mother’s day gift!

  • Novel-teas going back to the cute tea bag pocket mug… these are NOVEL-TEAS 🙂 In their words ”bookish tea bags tagged with wry quotes from literary greats”.

This next one is a “What the what?” moment for me. So I thought maybe you would get a kick out of my confusion.

  • The Pee Pocket yes… you read that correctly The PEE POCKET! I have oh so many questions… 1- Why did I find this in a search for Mother’s Day Gifts? 2- In what situation would this be an acceptable way to relieve yourself? And 3- What the WHAT?!?!!

mother's day gifts

 

  • Instant Audience I could never say it as well as they do… “Let’s face it, you’re a star who deserves your own audience! Even if friends and family don’t agree. You can have your own audience in your pocket with the Instant Audience sound effects box. You will be loved and adored, and always the funniest one in the room. If someone tries to upstage you, just hit the “crickets” or “boo” sound button to let them know they’re not as funny as you.” YES!!!

 

 

Now this one is just over the top…. 

  • Complaint Sticky Notes Now I like this one. Use this sticky note pad to write a complaint and hang in on the fridge and I will then cover it with artwork drawn by the children 🙂

  • Custom Bobblehead I don’t think that there is another thing in this entire world that is more narcissistic than having a bobblehead made of yourself :/

And now I have to stop before I dig myself even deeper into the pits of interweb hell.

I hope you got a nice chuckle and maybe some actual good ideas for Mother’s Day.

Hopefully, you don’t receive a remote control bottle opener or a PEE POCKET for your Mother’s Day gifts!!!

mother's day gifts

Have a wonderful week and Happy Mother’s Day!!!

Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

Official List of the awesome stuff I loved in April

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I have really come to enjoy collecting my favorite Social Media posts and other internet related things as a blogger.

All through the month, I save the things that speak to me. Whether that be emotionally or mentally or even spiritually.

It is so much fun and even relaxing to like and then share great posts from talented people, even if they are not bloggers.

This month is no different, I have compiled a list of really great posts that I really loved.

I like to start with a few quotes to bring the mood up and motivate those mommies who are having a bad day.

I hope this post gives you some inspiration and maybe even a laugh or two.

So, let’s get into my official awesome April list…

QUOTES

“Good, better, best. Never let it rest, until your good is better and your better is best”

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” (always my go to for the bad days)

My own….. “Everything I need to know I learned in kinder…. No… everything I need to know I learned from my mother… and that is the truth”

“The time spent on the family is not a sacrifice. You are living a life with choices; when you make the right ones, you have a good life.”

“Your most valuable parenting skill is learning to manage yourself first”

“And remember that behind every successful woman is a basket of dirty laundry”

“Parenting is the easiest thing in the world to have an opinion about, but the hardest thing in the world to do”

 

TWITTER

https://twitter.com/awsmnss29/status/857991889114542080 *****

 

INSTAGRAM

 

 

FACEBOOK

https://www.facebook.com/Elissathemom/

https://www.facebook.com/thedrunkmom/

https://www.facebook.com/singlemumstyle/

https://www.facebook.com/littlemissblg/

https://www.facebook.com/OrganizingMotherhood/

https://www.facebook.com/momalwaysknows/

https://www.facebook.com/OneAwesomeMomma/

https://www.facebook.com/alliesmommy7/ *****

 

BLOGS

http://www.momadvice.com/post/amys-notebook-04-26-17

http://familycorner.blogspot.com/2017/04/happy-homemaker-monday-04172017.html

Hobbies From Home: Fun, Productive Ideas for Busy Moms

Dads, Be Tender With Your Children

Sometimes We Have to Step Back For Parenting to Come Into Focus

Stay-at-Home Mom Resources and Advice You’ll Love

http://alliesmommy.com/ *****

PINTEREST

https://www.pinterest.com/thebettermom/

https://www.pinterest.com/stayasahm/

https://www.pinterest.com/the1dergirl/

https://www.pinterest.com/agnesrhodes/

https://www.pinterest.com/reneearbia/

https://www.pinterest.com/prosahm/

https://www.pinterest.com/ReluctantlyHome/

https://www.pinterest.com/alliesmommyblog/ *****

 

*****shameless plugs… because this is the first time in my blogging journey {over a year} where I’m actually proud of my content.

Thank you for reading 🙂

So this has been the…

I hope you have enjoyed this post as much as I enjoyed putting it together!

What have you enjoyed this month? Anything new and special you’ve done that you would like to share? Let me know in the comments.

If you enjoyed this post please share to your friends and family.

Have a wonderful week!!!

Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

The imperfect parent: What should I be doing?

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The Imperfect Parent

Being an imperfect parent is scary. Most of us struggle with parenting every day. Yes! It’s true, the parents who love and care if their child will be happy and healthy as they grow up, struggle with the decisions they make every day. You are not alone!

I am an imperfect parent. And I’m okay with that. Usually.

I struggle every day with the simplest things. Am I feeding Allie the right foods? Do I interact with her enough? To much? Am I letting her watch too much T.V? What could I be doing better?

Am I a good parent?

So, in order to understand what a “good parent” is, we need to look at what a “bad parent” looks like.

We all know that a bad parent is usually:

  • intolerant
  • constantly critical
  • more interested in their own affairs, and
  • seems like they would rather be doing anything else

(this does not include the extreme cases of abusive parents. If you know of any children in abusive situations please let the authorities know)

Now, I have a question for you.

Are you satisfied with being a “good enough parent”?

I believe that you definitely want more for your child than just average. We all want our children to have “more than we ever had”.

But, you need to think about what will make you happy as well. Coming up with that balance of happy mom happy kids is difficult.

Here are a few tips to get you started on the right track as an imperfect parent. Take them as a jumping off point to come up with your own plan for a happy life for your family.

  1. You are human: Be humble. Recognize that you have a lot to learn. We all do. Be willing to learn from your mistakes. You cannot do everything, be everywhere, or know everything. You have your own issues and that is okay. The key is not to be perfect but to have the right attitude.Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Celebrate your successes.
  2. You are playing a percentage game: We know these stories all too well. The children from the most abusive, deprived backgrounds somehow manage to be huge successes. While the children from the very best families somehow go off the rails into drugs and crime. In reality you, the parent, are only one factor in your child’s upbringing. You cannot (as much as you try) control all the variables. Nothing in life is guaranteed.Your success as a parent is NOT determined by how well your children turn out. It is, however, determined by whether you did all you reasonably could to do the right things and make the right decisions for them, with the knowledge you had at the time.
  3. Your children are not the only things in your life: We seem to be obsessed with the idea that the interests of the children come first, before anything else. By putting them first in everything we run the risk of creating a selfish “me first” generation. (Which we see all too often). They could grow up believing that the world owes them a living.Sometimes, children have to take second place, and that is an important life lesson.Make up your own mind as to what would be best for the family as a whole.
  4. Long term view: Raising children is a long process. How do you want them to be as adults? What qualities and skills do they need to learn?What experiences do they need along the way to learn those skills and character traits?
  5. Look for positives: They will make mistakes. Forgive them. Correct them gently and move on. Children crave their parent’s attention. If you pay attention to what they do wrong, they will do more of that.Pay attention to what they do right and they will be eager to please you more.
  6. Stick to your guns:Believe in yourself. There will be times when you make decisions and you are challenged on them, either by your children or others. Do Not be swayed!And don’t be afraid to say NO…. to your children and your relatives.

Are you an imperfect parent?

imperfect parent

Your children are watching you.

Watching how you deal with life, How you make decisions, how you cope with adversity, how you believe in yourself, and stand up for yourself and your family. The easiest way to learn is observing.

Be a good example for them.

I hope this post helped you to feel a little bit better about your parenting style and get some motivation for the future.

If you enjoyed it please share and let me know which tip you liked the most. If you have anything to add that has helped you please comment below, we can all learn from each other.

Have a wonderful week!

 

 

Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

March Favorites: The things I’ve enjoyed

There are so many talented people in the world. I find beauty in pretty much everything I see.

From artists to authors, to architects… so much creativity all around.

Even on the internet… there are so many sites where you can see the beauty of life and art.

Some are blogs written by very intelligent, wonderful people.

Others are social media accounts that follow the lives of these talented people.

And then, there are MOTHERS who, I believe, are the most beautiful people.

They care for their children with a passion and tenacity that you can see in their pictures.

Their sense of humor can make even the grumpiest person giggle a little.

Today, I give you my favorite posts from other moms. Some are just everyday moms and some are bloggers.

All are great!

 

 

INSTAGRAM

Come on, girl… this shit is taking too long!!! #laborpains

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Can I get an "Amen?" #naturesbestfloral #greenbay #greenbaywisconsin #ashwaubenon #momproblems #mom #truth

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TWITTER

 

PINTEREST

Habits of a highly Happy SAHM

How to be an Organized SAHM

Managing Mommy Melancholy

Practicing Patience with Preschoolers

MOM MEMES

Blogs

Forever within numbered Days

Explore Oklahoma

I’m the Dorkiest Mom, and that’s okay

Something I read: “What did you fail at?”

Mom needs a break

The Perfect Kid Friendly Breakfast: Ham and Egg Cups

Instant Pot Creamy Sun Dried Tomato Chicken Parmesan

Mother-in-Laws, Grief & Boundaries

 

Quotes

“It’s not easy being a mother. If it were easy, fathers would do it.”
“Child rearing myth #1: Labour ends when the baby is born.”
Motherhood has taught me the meaning of living in the moment and being at peace. Children don’t think about yesterday, and they don’t think about tomorrow. They just exist in the moment.
Motherhood has relaxed me in many ways. You learn to deal with crisis’. I’ve become a juggler, I suppose. It’s all a big circus, and nobody who knows me believes I can manage, but sometimes I do.
All those cliches, those things you hear about having a baby and motherhood – all of them are true. And all of them are the most beautiful things you will ever experience.
Motherhood is wonderful, but it’s also hard work. It’s the logistics more than anything. You discover you have reserves of energy you didn’t know you had.

 

Party Stuff

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Shop for unique birthday party favors

Embossed Favor Bags with Handles                                 Decorate Your Own Heart Box

                    

Art Journaling

I have just recently taken to art journaling. It is said to be very calming and also fun.

 

Art Journaling 101
Composition book art journals
Defining Art Journaling

Art Journaling Page Video

 

This has been my favorite things for the month of March. Hopefully, you stumbled on something you like on my list.

Let me know your favorite blogs to read, instagram feeds to scroll, pinterest boards to pin from, or Twitter accounts to follow. I would love to know what you have been liking this month.

Have a wonderful week 🙂

Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.