Loving yourself does not mean Hating Your Children


Becoming a mother changes everything … But, not really.

Yes, Your priorities change, your sleep changes (a lot!), your body goes through many changes and your heart expands … but what happens to your identity when you cross over into motherhood?

Can you be a good mother and still be a good woman?


Here are a few tips to help you start a better balance for you and your child/ren.

  • Start with some affirmations to retrain yourself (you are worth it)

When you change your thoughts, you change your life. In the same fashion, when you change the way you look at things the things you look at change.

Your feelings become more forgiving and more loving. Say these affirmations to yourself as often as possible, so it’s more likely to pop into your mind when you’re under stress.

Some examples are:

-Just as the needs of my children matter, so do my own.
-I am a good mom even as I work to become a better one.
-Motherhood is not made up of one success or failure. but rather by the sum of my parenting choices.
-One bad day does not make me a bad mom. One bad day makes me human.
-I will do my best as a mom and that will always be enough.

  • Meditate (everyone says it because it works)
    Just 10 minutes a few times a day can change your mood for the better.
  • Support yourself (you need it)
    Parenting is the hardest thing any of us will ever do because it requires us to grow.
    So, we all need to give ourselves support if we want to parent well. Instead of berating yourself when you make a mistake, resolve to learn from it. OK, so you lost it and screamed at your child. Stop beating yourself up. Calm yourself down. Apologize. Then, give your little one a hug (trust me it helps).
  • Set aside creative time for yourself 
    Paint, draw, write, scrapbook, etc…
  • Have a girls day out with friends (no talk about kids or bills)
    I know this is a very difficult undertaking but you will be so refreshed and ready to take on the world.
  • Swim, dance, yoga, paint… for relaxation. Whatever interests you
    Anything that you are passionate about
  • Learn to say no to things that don’t benefit anyone in your family
    It’s nice to do things for others but you need to think of the needs of yourself and your family
  • Create a to-do list to organize all the extracurricular activities
    When you have a schedule it’s a lot less stressful and easier to plan out your week.
  • Spend time with your significant other
    Relationships can get very strained with all the responsibilities that come with children and jobs. Take some time out of your busy schedule to have a date night out or even a relaxing night in without the kids. It will not only reinforce a strong bond but it will be a good relaxing time for you as well.


Loving your child hating yourself, it doesn’t have to be so black and white.

In the grand scheme of things. life is tough for everyone. No matter who they are.

The people who are out to make you feel like a horrible mother/woman usually end up being the ones who have a nanny, babysitter, part-time cook, and someone to drive the kids to school. (not judging, if they have the money for it more power to them) What I do judge is people who feel the need to pick on other mother’s who don’t have the money for all of those things and can’t keep up every day. That’s just being a rude hypocrite.

We all have our hard times. Some people just hide it better. And that’s okay.

At the end of the day, your children are fed, mostly clean and happy. Your job is done.

You do not have to be…

If you get to the dishes or the laundry or even the vacuuming (I hate vacuuming with a passion), extra mommy bonus points for you!!!

You are an awesome momma!!!

Thank you for everything you do. You are raising our next generation (maybe a president one day). That is a big job and you are doing great!

Let me know in the comments what one chore you absolutely hate doing and one you actually like to do.

Please share this post with all your mommy friends.


Check out this post on Over Parenting: Am I doing too much for my Child

Also, go check out That’s Inappropriate for some really great parenting advice and humor. I promise you won’t be disappointed.

loving yourself does not mean hating your children

Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

Valentine’s Day Crafts to make with your Toddler

I claim there ain’t another saint as great as Valentine.” -Ogden Nash

Valentine’s Day crafts are a great way to bond with your little ones. I love watching Allie discover different ways to express herself, even if she gets a little messy. It is so amazing how her mind works. She is such a quick learner.

Since she is now old enough to understand paint and crafts a little better, I wanted to do something fun for Valentine’s Day.

I searched Pinterest for some toddler appropriate Valentine’s Day Craft ideas. It did not disappoint.

So I now present to you the crafts I will be making with Allie and a few others you can try with your little one. I have chosen three crafts for each age group from one to preschooler.

These are so cute!

Valentine’s Day Crafts

For your one year old

Handprint Monkey Valentine

Cotton Ball Heart Painting

Homemade Valentine Wreaths

For your two year old

From the Bottom of my feet…er heart

Simple Yarn Valentine

Tissue Paper Valentine Wreath


For your Three Year Old

Kid’s Heart Sun  Catchers

Heart Hippo Craft

DIY Valentine Paper Roll Owls


For your Preschooler

Love Bug Craft Stick

Dot Painting

Simple Heart Craft

These Crafts would be great for your little one to make for dad or grandma and grandpa.

I will be adding pictures of Allie’s finished crafts in the next few days. I am so excited to get started!

A little history on Valentine’s Day for those of you who are interested.

February 14th was the feast date of at least three different martyrs named St. Valentine, and, in the Middle Ages, over fifty St. Valentines were celebrated over the course of the year. One of these, a Roman priest, has inspired several legends, all of which arose long after his death. According to one, he was sentenced to death in pagan Rome for encouraging young people to marry within the Christian Church. Before his execution, the story goes, he sent a letter to a young woman whom he had cured of blindness, signing the missive “from your Valentine.”

In 1381, Geoffrey Chaucer made the first recorded connection between St. Valentine’s Day and love in his poem “The Parliament of Fowls,” identifying the day as the time when “every foul cometh ther to choose his mate.” French and English writers of the 14th and 15th centuries also allude to the day as one reserved for lovers. Manufactured Valentine’s Day cards first appeared in England in the 1800s, and by 1835, over 60,000 Valentine’s Day cards were being sent in England alone.

I hope you find inspiration to get crafty and have some fun with your little one this Valentine’s Day.

Do you have a tradition with your little one’s for Valentine’s Day? Do you carry on a tradition from your childhood? Let me know in the comments.

Have a great Valentine’s Day with your family!!

Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

5 Reasons I’m not Piercing my Daughters Ears

Even before I had a child I have always had many opinions about different topics. Piercing my daughters ears is one of the big ones.

I have always felt very strongly against this but I never actually thought of the reasoning behind my decision.

I thought about this the other day. I came up with 5 reasons that resonate with me.

Here are the 5 reasons I will not be piercing my daughters ears myself:

  • If the earring is pulled it can tear the earlobe
  • No matter how clean a piercing place is, there is always a chance of infection
  • I have holes in my ears and I haven’t worn earrings in years.
  • It hurts, a lot.
  • If my daughter wants to get her ears pierced, I want her to make the decision on her own. Its her body, she should have the choice if she does or doesn’t want holes in her ears.

I will let her know the pros and cons of having earrings and taking care of them as they heal. It will be her duty if she so chooses.

I hate that I didn’t have a choice in the matter. My mom got my ears pierced when I was a little under 2 years old. I have not won earrings since high school. I am now 33 years old. I have these holes in my ears that pretty much act like black heads. They fill up with dead skin cells that then begins to hurt if I don’t remember to regularly clean them. Since I do not wear any earrings there is nothing blocking the hole.

How many people actually wear earrings anymore anyway? I feel as though many people decide to wear other types of jewelry these days. I think that a nice statement necklace and bracelet can go a long way. But, that’s just my opinion.

daughters ears

If your daughter’s ears are pierced or you decide to get them pierced, here are some very pretty earrings.

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I know this is not a very long or interesting post. But, the topic was on my mind and I wanted to get it off my chest.

I would love to know how you feel about earrings, and what age you think is appropriate to get them. Does your daughter or son have any piercings?



Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

Chores for Toddlers: If they can walk they can help

“Housework is what a woman does that nobody notices unless she hasn’t done it”

Chores for Toddlers’


Chores for todlders are a very good idea. There is no doubt that children are messy. It seems that they always leave a path of destruction in their wake. We are constantly picking up after them. It is a never ending story of stepping on Lego’s and doll parts.

But, if they can walk, they can help! Start giving your child little things to do around the house. Depending on their age, there are a lot of things they can do to make life easier. Also, it will teach them the value of having a clean place to enjoy with the family.

There are a bunch of things toddlers can do to help around the house. I’ve chosen 12 chores that Toddlers can do with supervision. This list should help get things done faster and hopefully make it more fun.

These chores for toddlers should be a big help for you and the family.

Chores Toddlers’ can Tackle


1- Pick up and put away their toys

to make this easier, have a cubby system at their level so they know where their toys go and it’s easy to sort them

2- Put their dirty clothes in the hamper (laundry basket)

this is easy enough just put the clothes in the basket when they take them off

3- Help sort the laundry

this one is pretty easy just dark and lights, also helps with learning colors


4- Unload the cooled down dryer

Allie loves helping mommy take the clothes out of the dryer 🙂

5- Help get the mail

they can put outgoing mail in the mailbox and bring in the mail for the house


6- Dust unbreakable items around the house

this is especially good for the meticulous child who likes things just so

7- Unpack and put away unbreakable groceries

Allie really enjoys putting the boxes in the pantry for mommy

8- Sweep the floor with a small broom and dust pan

they will get a kick out of pouring the dirt and dust in the trash


9- Tear lettuce for salad

a very easy and fun task to prepare for dinner

10- Water the outside plants

having their own small water pitcher makes this a fun experience

chores for toddler to tackle

11- Pull weeds

this is a fun chore with supervision so they don’t pull everything

12- Snap green beans

Allie loves doing this with Mommy, she  thinks  it’s silly to hear the snap each time

Including the kids in helping with the chores teaches them responsibility and takes some of the work off of your back.

Knowing how to keep things clean is a great lesson. Children also really love to help out wherever they can. They love to be included in the daily happenings.

I’m sure you can figure out a few more chores for toddlers to help  around the house.

Here is a link for a great chore chart to get you started with your toddler

Wishing you stress-free house cleaning and more fun with your children.

Are there any chores that your children love to tackle? Maybe there are some they absolutely hate? Let me know in the comments.

Have a Wonderful week!!!


Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

Ideas are not easy….. sometimes we have to pick each others brains

Ideas are not easy…

sometimes we have to pick each others brains

Ideas are not easy….. Which is why today I am borrowing an idea from Amy Clark over at Mom Advice



She puts together a list of interesting blog posts as a way to “highlight other fabulous bloggers”.

Here is an example… Notebook 9-21-2016

Mom Advice is my favorite blog. It has all the things about a blog you could possibly want to read. Especially as a mom. She is serious and humorous. She has an incredible way with words and is both hilarious and inspiring. I only hope to be as great a blogger as she in the future.

Next on my list is…

Mommy Shorts


Mommy Shorts

This is my favorite post right now… How you use your phone before and after kids

She writes about life, wisdom, children, her favorite things, AND she wrote a book!!!

Check it out HERE

Another great blogger on my list right now…

Enjoying the small things


This one is more on the serious side. I check out her blog when I feel a bit down and her writing brings be back up.

Enjoying the small things

Pick any one of her posts and you are in for a great read.

I love her outlook on all different subjects. It is very easy to get lost on her site for longer than I plan.

One more of my favorite blogs….

To Love Honor and Vacuum


Sheila writes about marriage, faith, social issues, parenting, sex and organizing. Very inspired and helpful.

Sometimes life is hard and you need a little insight.

To Love Honor and Vacuum

My favorite post right now

Open Letter to My Toddler: Why You Need Time Alone

So, those are my top 4 favorite mom blogs right now. Next week the list will be different. I love reading other mom blogs. They have so many different writing styles and personality’s.

You can find a blog to read in every subject and style of writing that fits your personality.

That is one of the big reasons why I started a blog of my own. I love reading others ideas on life and family.

Home organization and DIY bloggers that I follow

The Inspired Room

ideas are hard room

The Inspired Room has some really great posts on home decorating and organizing.

I really love the Seasonal/holiday section.

Seasonal Decorating

They even have a really cute Home Decor Coloring Book that I think could help pick out a style and color scheme for anyone looking to update their decor.

In my own Style


I absolutely love In my own Style

Affordable DIY decorating and Creative ideas to inspire your style

I can’t pick just one favorite post. They are all so amazing. The images are incredible and colorful.

The Thrifty Decor Chick


The Thrifty Decor Chick

The before and after in this post is incredible! I love the style Here

This is my top favorite DIY Home blog. I absolutely love the fun of it.

Vintage Revivals


I am linking to her about page because the image is so funny. She is so down to earth and it shows in the picture.

Vintage Revivals

I can’t even express how great I think this blog is. Mandi is an amazing person. But, don’t take my word for it. Go check out this post

Lifestyle bloggers that I just looovvveee….

Virtually Yours


This blogger writes about travel, food, entertainment and other lifestyle topics.

Virtually Yours

These are some really great diet friendly Halloween treats. Even if you aren’t on a diet they are still very good to try.

Go check out some of her other great posts from Apple spice scones to Luscious Coconut Brown Sugar Body Scrub.

Living Well Spending Less


I absolutely love planners. All shapes, sizes and types. I haven’t quite perfected how to effectively  use them yet. But, I’m working on it.

The Living Well Spending Less blog I love. Such a great read and so many resources.

I really love this Planner The Living Well Planner

The Everygirl


The Everygirl

The life map for everygirls everywhere

This is a great read

What Mommy Does


This is a blog after my own heart…

I only wish I could be anywhere near as great as she 🙂

She writes about a little bit of everything in regards to motherhood and running a household.

This is a great post I mean, who doesn’t like free stuff?!


I love blogging. I am not great at it, but I’m getting better and I want to be successful.

Reading all of these great blogs gives me the drive I need to push forward and make myself the best I can be as a blogger.

Thank you so much for reading and being here. Even if its your first time, it means a lot to me.

In the comments below, Tell me one thing that you work very hard at, that you are proud of yourself for accomplishing or that you wish you could do better.

Maybe we can motivate each other to succeed!


Allie’s Mommy

Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

Park trip: Allie and Mommy had a great time at the park today

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Allie and Mommy had a great time at the park


Park a.k.a playground time is fun time. We love going to the playground.

Park time for Allie. This is an extra post for this week because I got some great pics today. I want to share our trip to the park and pics I took.

It has been so hot this summer that Allie and I have not been to the mark as much as we normally would have been. But, today we just had to get out in the sun and breeze and take a walk.

There are only few things at our park but she gets a kick out of every one of them. There are a few different slides but she won’t go down any of them by herself so I did not get and pictures.

First, she has to go on the swings and say wee-hee-heeeee. Not weeeeeee… cause thats wrong. But, wee-hee-heeeee!! She is such a cutie 🙂


Then. she does one of three things… the whale…

which I did not get any pictures of because the lighting isn’t very good at that corner of the park.

The horsey…







This is when she starts to say, “Mommy motorcycle”

park day for allie and mommy

I love this picture. This is where I said, “Come on Allie smile for mommy one more time” 🙂






And then, without fail every time, she wants to go back on the swings before we leave.



And now as I do sometimes. A little history about the first playground…

A playground is a place with a specific design to allow children to play there. It may be indoors but is typically outdoors. While a playground is usually designed for children, some playgrounds are designed for other age groups.

Modern playgrounds often have recreational equipment such as the seesawmerry-go-roundswingsetslide, jungle gym, chin-up bars,sandboxspring rider, trapeze, playhouses, and mazes. Many of which help children develop physical coordination, strength, and flexibility, as well as providing recreation and enjoyment. Common in modern playgrounds are play structures that link many different pieces of equipment.

Playgrounds often also have facilities for playing informal games of adult sports, such as a baseball diamond, a skating arena, a basketball court, or a tether ball.

Public playground equipment refers to equipment intended for use in the play areas of parksschools, child care facilities, institutions, multiple family dwellings, restaurants, resorts, and recreational developments, and other areas of public use.

My baby girl tired herself out and she is now taking a much needed nap.

Look at this little sweetie pie



And, all that running around made mommy tired as well. On to a much needed shower!!!



Hope everyone has a great rest of the week.


Allie’s Mommy

Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.

Motivation and inspiration for every day life of everyone

Motivation and Inspiration for every day life:

Motivation and inspiration-

Ever since I was very young I have always taken comfort in quotes and sayings from others. My earliest memory of this is when my grandmother was speaking of growing older. I had never thought of the subject before then and was very curious. I asked her if she missed her younger days. Her answer to me was quite simple. She said, “Age is a matter of mind, If you don’t mind it doesn’t matter”. I’ve carried that with me and have used it several times in my life so far.

Years later as I recall, my mom was comforting me after a particularly upsetting day. I do not remember what was so upsetting at the time, but I’m sure it was horrible in my mind at that age. She said to me that day, and on so many other occasions when I was upset. “This to shall pass”, meaning, no matter how difficult it may seem at the time, the pain will go away and you will be happy again. She still uses that with our family to this day and I’m sure it is as comforting to the rest of them as it still is to me.

Today I want to share some more quotes and sayings that help me through some tough times. Being a stay at home mom is a lot of fun but it does get frustrating and difficult at times. These sayings and quotes help a lot and also just put a smile on my face.

Quotes and Sayings from some great people-


Ruth Gordon said:


“Courage is like a muscle, we strengthen it with use”

Virginia Woolf said:


“If you do not tell the truth about yourself, you cannot tell it about other people”

Rosalene Glickman Ph. D. said:


“Every situation is an opportunity to do your best”.

Fred Devito said:

motivation to CHANGE

“If id doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you”.

Wilma Rudolph said:


“The reward is not so great without the struggle”.

Wayne Dyer said:


“Be miserable or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, its always your choice”.

Zig Ziglar said:


“The real opportunity for success lies within the person and not in the job”.

Jim Rohn said:


“Either you run the day or the day runs you”.

Motivation through inspiration-

“It’s not about being perfect. It’s about effort. And when you bring that effort every single day, that is where transformation happens. That is how change occurs”.

-Jillian Michaels

As I said in the beginning quotes have been a big part of my life for so long. I hope these inspire and motivate you as much as they have for me.

What are some of the quotes or sayings that have helped you through your life? Are there any mantras that help you when you are going through tough times? Please share them with me in the comments.

Thank you for reading and I hope you come back again. Have a wonderful day!


Allie’s Mommy


I am doing a giveaway on my facebook page Allie’s Mommy Blog. It is not very mommy specific but I think it’s a great book and a lot of people will enjoy it. I am giving away a copy of YouTuber Shane Dawson’s new book It gets Worse. He is a very funny, very interesting person. Check him out Here. He is very free speaking so if you do not like things like that this is not for you. That is okay though because I have many other things for you to enjoy in the future 🙂

Click the link to get to the giveaway 🙂

Shane Dawson It Get’s Worse



Hello, my name is Kristen Osborne I am a happy mother of one beautiful little girl. Very into the internet and trying out new things.